If there is one thing I believe to always hold true when it comes to fashion is that a shoe can make or break an outfit. I also believe that you can not see the full potential of an outfit until you put on your shoes. Throughout my retail career I watch this happen so many times. Women emerge from the fitting room in a stunning little black dress that fits her like a glove only to have wool socks bunched up to her ankles… “I’m not sure its right. Its just not exactly….” Yes, yes, you should really take off those socks, I say. She laughs. No, really, TAKE OFF THE SOCKS…here, put on this strappy little shoe. I wait outside telling her “my story” about how when I get dressed every day I don’t even bother to look at myself in the mirror until I put on my shoes, I see her step out of the fitting room now a new woman. With total confidence and a huge smile she twirls around and shouts ITS PERFECT!
It took me a few years to figure this out, but once I did it was a lesson that stuck with me forever, and undoubtedly started my shoe obsession. Actually, when I REALLY think back, I blame my mother (sorry, Mom), as she introduced me to my favorite childhood book “Shoes for Angela.” Do you know it? It’s a childrens book from the 60’s about a girl who is middle school aged or so and only owns two pairs of shoes “one pair was brown, for school. One pair was black, for good.” Womp Womp…Angela was bored, she might as well have been the women in the wool socks, and she longed for so much more diversity, color, and style, can I get an Amen? With her Birthday soon approaching, Angela wrote to her army of an extended family with one request: shoes. Birthday comes and BOOM…Angela got bombarded with boxes upon boxes of shoes for all occasions to go with all kinds of outfits. Of course Angelas room was a hot mess, she grew out of the shoes quicker than her mother could say told you so, AND THEN was forced to donate them to the PTA rummage sale. Worst part was she only made out with two new pairs that fit…”one brown for school, and one black for good,” poor girl. Needless to say I never cared that my closet is in a constant state of despair because I, like Angela really really like shoes. If you have not read it or have a little girl, it really is a sweet book with good lesson that although we always want more, we usually already have enough. This week, I quit my job. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make as that job brings in a little less than half of our families income. I knew it was time and I took the jump because I am ready to take on the challenge of doing more with less. I am ready to teach my kids to be kind and resourceful humans. I am ready to reinvest my time, energy and passion into the things in life that are most important to me, the things that I LOVE.
family, fashion, furnishing, and functions – the four F’s of mInd4style! Enjoy!